I was able to go to my home away from home last weekend before my Annual Pass expires next Friday. I had no plans to renew it, but now with all the Star Wars stuff that’s going to be happening at the park, like Season of the Force, I’m definitely reconsidering. I wish I knew how to quit you, Disneyland!
Anyhow, my sister and I got to go on Saturday and for a few hours on Sunday together, but she left after our cousin’s wedding shower so I ended up going to Disneyland solo on Sunday night. I figured I might as well take advantage of the fact that I still had access to both parks (and discounts!).
I realize that walking around Disneyland by yourself sounds a bit depressing. I did it once before when I went with my former boyfriend and his then girlfriend and her little brother — I know that seems weird, but they invited me and who says no to Disneyland? I was the only one that had a Magic Morning pass that allowed me to go to the park an hour early, so I ditched them… actually, I ditched them a few times and walked around by myself. While alone, I went on Space Mountain, the Haunted Mansion, and the Winnie the Pooh ride where the cast member actually let me and the grandpa/grandson duo I shared a beehive shaped vehicle with go on the ride twice in a row! I was fine alone for those few hours because I at least knew I would be hanging out with my friends again later on in the day.
Disneyland is one of those places where you go with family or friends to have fun and create special memories with them. But you know what? I was fine on my own last Sunday knowing that I wouldn’t be accompanied later on. There were a few moments where I’d see a couple walk past me holding hands and I felt a bit sad since I didn’t have anyone to keep me company. And HOLY CRAP, I was literally surrounded by couples hugging each other in the stretching room at the Haunted Mansion. I’m not even exaggerating. And while I was walking around the park, which was oddly humid for a Sunday night, I started thinking, “Why are you all holding hands? Why are you standing so close to each other? IT IS SUPER MUGGY RIGHT NOW. Do you not feel it? Are you not affected?! UGH.” So I might be a bit of a hypocrite, because I once was one of those people you’d see with their boyfriend looking disgustingly sweet. And yeah, sometimes we held hands when it was unbearably hot outside. But I digress…
Just walking around by myself, I started thinking about how great it is to be single. I can be selfish and focus on my wants and needs without having to consider someone else’s (does that sound harsh?). No sharing food (actually, that comes in handy when I’m not that hungry). No compromises. No feeling judged for wanting to buy certain items (like a My Little Pony dress (former boyfriend wasn’t crazy about it) or a Duffy Bear purse… which I totally bought and rocked at the park on Sunday morning), and no feeling bad for talking about how I want certain material possessions.
Yeah, I like material things! I love fashion. I love clothes and accessories and cute geeky toys and books. I’m a fashion blogger and a geek. I am living in a material world and baby, I am a material girl. DEAL WITH IT.
Whooaaa… okay, got a little carried away and self-righteous there for a minute, but you know what I mean, right? Being single just makes me feel more free. Not that I ever felt constricted in my last relationship, but I’m finding that I can do things that I truly want to do, and I have more time to devote to myself which is very important. Before my last ex, I only ever had one boyfriend and we didn’t last very long. So after that, I spent a good amount of time pining for love. I just wanted to be wanted and also be able to reciprocate those feelings. I never appreciated singledom until now. So although I did truly love my ex more than anything, I’m finally starting to honestly feel good about life as a single lady and learning how to enjoy my own company.
Okay, enough of the sentimental stuff.
In case you’re wondering, “What does one do while they’re on their lonesome at the Happiest Place on Earth?” Well, I got to hit the Little Mermaid and Mater’s Junkyard Jamboree at California Adventure, and when I got to Disneyland the parade was just ending and they were getting ready for fireworks so I just headed to the Disney Gallery to look at some art and watched Great Moments With Mr. Lincoln, walked to Fantasyland only to find that every ride was closed, and then went on the Haunted Mansion and ended the night with the Jungle Cruise. I wanted my farewell ride to be on King Arthur’s Carrousel, but at that point it was already 11pm and I just wanted to go back to the hotel and eat. So that was my fun solo date at Disneyland.
Do you like taking yourself on solo dates? Where do you take yourself when you go out on the town on your own? Let me know in the comments!
dress: Field Day Wearables (one of) | cardigan: Old Navy (buy similar here)
belt + undershirt: Xhileration (thrifted/old purchase) | hair flower: Icing (n/a)
shoes: deflex Comfort (buy here) | Duffy purse: Disneyland (buy here)
PS: Goofy was going in for a hug when I took a picture with him, but then he jumped back with excitement when I saw that he was on my dress! Oh, Goofy. You silly dog.
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while I sometimes (often times) complain about being single, I actually kinda like it.
not gonna lie.
I am too selfish. I really only think about myself most times and I dont wanna have to worry about someone else.
I feel it girl..I feel it.
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Sounds like you had an awesome day by yourself. Seriously, though, you have to be one tough nut not to have a good time at Disneyland. I sometimes regret not having spent more of life single, as it was always such a uniquely free experience. That said, Rick and I are very good at giving each other room to do things on our own we know the other isn’t into and vice versa.
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Good on you Nina! I’m so pleased that you had such an amazing time at Disneyland. It can be so tricky flying solo, particularly in places where a lot of people are coupled up, but it gets easier with time. And as you said, there are a lot of perks to making those outings as a single woman.
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Solo dates, while great, can get stifling when you’re surrounded by other couples, but good for you, rocking it and it sounds like you had a blast! I’m so glad, too, that there’s someone else who mentally yells at couples holding hands in summer heat. Like, I just can’t. What are you doing, people?
Star Wars stuff is certainly a reason for an annual pass. Says the girl who lives no where near Disneyland.
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Being single is highly under-rated! Embrace and enjoy it! But if/when you find someone new, don’t forget you can (and should!) spend time by yourself sometimes. I think I’d enjoy some alone time at Disneyland, you can do exactly as you want without worrying about how they’re going, even if they’re super easy going and into Disney as much as you re, like my bf is, it’s nice to be kinda selfish and do whatever you want at your own pace!
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I do a lot of things on my own, just because I don’t feel like waiting around for someone else to join me!
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Jealous of your annual pass to Dland!! But I agree, I have very fond memories of walking alone through Disneyland and feeling free to do what I wanted and not worrying that friends or family would feel bored on the little kids’ rides or in the gift shops. Disneyland can actually be a really hard place to go with other people because everyone has their own favorite rides and memories that we’re quite emotionally attached to and it’s hard to compromise! And way to embrace the positives of being single. It can definitely get hard but I love your attitude!
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I would LOVE to go to Disney on my own. This inspired me Nina. I can do it too!
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