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A few months ago during a Wear Your Voice Mag (WYV) meeting, it was brought up that articles with personal narratives that included cultural experiences were some that our readership really responded to. When it came time to do pitches, I immediately thought of what it was like growing up as a chubby pinay. It was really the only thing I could think of to write about regarding personal narratives about my Filipino upbringing. As I started jotting down notes, I found it to be very hard and painful to write. Digging up all these horrific moments from the depths of my memory put me in panic mode and guilt ridden, so I put off writing it for quite a bit.  I didn’t go into full detail about everything I had gone through though in my final draft as I had to consider my word count, and also that I was focusing on how my culture in particular had effected me — not how my peers did. That could be another article all together. It’s just really hard growing up on the heavier side of the scale because it makes you the automatic target of ridicule.

I saw that it was posted last Wednesday, but I made no plans to share it because all this anxiety began to build within me. I started to worry about what people would think. The Filipino community is always depicted as being an extremely friendly and happy bunch, yet I wrote about how in that culture it seems perfectly acceptable to make blunt comments on someone’s appearance — particularly whether someone is too fat or too skinny. So basically, in my article it sounds like I’m saying Filipinos can be extremely insensitive bags of dicks. I’ve only been to the Philippines twice, the last time was 11 years ago when I had just turned 19. A relative we stayed with called a month after we came back home and while I talked to her on the phone, she casually asked, “Have you lost any weight?” Where did that even come from? A couple years after that, I opted out of going back there for a month with my mom, dad, sister, youngest cousin, and my aunt because I didn’t want to have to deal with being told I was fat everyday for a month straight. My mom came back with a couple of stories that would’ve made me cry a damn ocean — she told me about how she talked to a local and they asked her if she was American, and she joked “Yes! Can you tell by my accent?” Their response? “No. It’s because you’re fat.” She also told me that when her, my cousin, and my dad got into a taxi the driver went out to check on the back tires to make sure their weight didn’t bring them down. Like… what the fuck?

I was also worried about sharing this article because it’s so personal. I briefly talk about attempting suicide, and of course, my family. I worried (or, I am still worried as I have not shared it with them yet) about what they’d think of it. Would I hurt their feelings? Would I upset them? Anger them? Offend them? Would this cause drama? I was seriously not planning on sharing it, and was thinking it would fly under the radar anyway since my articles on WYV don’t create that much of a buzz. But that changed on Tuesday. My article was shared on their Facebook page, and someone had left a comment on one of my Instagram pictures telling me they had just read my article and how they related to it. I woke up the next morning to a message on Facebook. Someone else had thanked me and said the article resonated with them, and how they could see their daughters getting effected by the same type of comments I grew up with. Instagram notifications showed other people commented that they had read my article. I looked at my post on WYV’s Facebook — it’s been shared 30 times so far, and the comments I’ve seen people make throughout the day have been nothing but supportive.

If you’d like to read it, you can find it here:

When Bullying Follows You Home: Growing Up Chubby and Filipino

Thank you to all who’ve reached out, commented on WYV’s page, and shared the article. It means so much that my words were able to resonate with some of you and let you know that you’re not alone. <3

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Where I’ve Been

As some of you may know, I’m also a fashion writer for Wear Your Voice Mag! I started a series called Fashion Faux Pas for the 30-Something where I feature a so-called faux pas and show how you can still rock it even if you’re 30 and over… or in my case, about to be 30! In my latest one I wrote about something near and dear to my to me: My Little Pony! Can you believe some people don’t approve of grown ass women (and men) owning MLP swag?! Check out the article here.

And here’s a list of some of the other articles I’ve done over the last few months that I totally forgot to share here:

Adopting the “Who Gives a F*ck” Attitude for a Body Positive Vacation (in which I write about how to stay positive about your self image whilst on vacation)
Comic-Con Fashionista Creates Her Own Rules (interview with Amanda Jean in which we talk about where she gets her style inspiration from )
Modern Pinup and Rockabilly Fashion at Tatyana (a review on Tatyana’s SF location)
A Cultural Invasion Hits Urban Stitch Boutique (independent designers from the UK featured in a Bay Area boutique)
Bay Area Ladies Brunch it Up With Geeky Flair (the inaugural Bay Area Geek Girl Brunch!)
Style Profile: Adriana Green of Trig & Polished (in which I interview fashion blogger Adriana Green about her personal style and where she seeks inspiration)

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How to Decoupage Your Own Geeky Bag

Hey my little ponies!

My latest article on Wear Your Voice is a D.I.Y. tutorial on how to revamp an old bag by decoupaging fabric on it.  I originally planned on strictly using floral material, but I saw this amazing Stormtrooper and glow in the dark Star Wars fabric with tie fighters on it at JoAnn’s and was like, “NEVERMIND!!” You all know how much I love mixing floral prints with sci-fi stuff anyway. ☺

To see how I did it, check out my tutorial here. 🙂

13932753164_59cedb28abdress: Hot Topic (buy similar here) | sunglasses: Kate Spade (n/a)
belt: A|X Exchange (n/a) | hair flower: Icing (n/a)
Han & Chewie pins: Disney Pin Trading from Disneyland
(buy here)

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Throwing Shade

Hey my little ponies! If you’ve been keeping up with the blog, you might know that I just got a job as a Fashion Contributor for Wear Your Voice Mag. AHH! For my very first article I wrote about how graphic tees are a supposed fashion faux pas for women past the age of 30, and since I’ve officially been added to the team, I’m going to start a series that focuses on all kinds of faux pas and how you can still rock them.

For my second supposed fashion faux pas I focused on oversized sunglasses. Yeah… apparently that’s a “no-no” for when I turn 30.Le fuq?! Whoever made that objection clearly hasn’t heard of Jackie O. or seen Audrey Hepburn in Breakfast at Tiffany’s.

You can read what I had to say about it here. 🙂

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PS: Like how I snuck Groot into my picture for the article? Hehehe!

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Reach for the Stars

For the past month I’ve been on a trial-run with Wear Your Voice Mag, an online publication based in Oakland, CA that covers beauty, sports, fashion, music, and spreads all kinds of body and sexual positivity no matter your size or gender, and I’m elated to share that last week I was formally invited to stay on as a fashion columnist!

They’re super supportive of me waving my geek flag too and have encouraged me to stay quirky with my articles. 😀 My latest one about dressing in theme at the Chabot Space & Science Center was just posted, so be sure to check it out here.

I’m starting to feel super legit about my status as an actual writer. AHHH!!!

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Wear Your Voice Mag

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Happy Monday, my little ponies!

I’m all kinds of excited to share with you that an article I wrote for a really amazing online publication called Wear Your Voice Mag just got published today! It’s about supposed fashion faux pas women over 30 shouldn’t wear anymore, but the tone of the article pretty much says “fuck that, I do what I want.” I’m hoping to make it a regular series as I focus on different faux pas. For this one I wrote about graphic t-shirts.

You can check it out here.

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